Affirmation Belonging Care

After 49 years, 11 months and 20 days married to Farris there are so many reasons to celebrate.

Find Farris Fall 2023

We have so much for which to be thankful! For most of the almost 50 years we were blessed with children: Kim for 49 of these years, Chris for 48, Patrick for 44, and George for 39. With thanks to their partners, Crystal, Tyler, Nea, and Katie, we have shared the last 23 years anticipating and celebrating the addition of Lilly, Miles, Gabe, Reid, Locklin, and Skyla to our lives.

Tyler and Gabe 2022

How did a supposedly happily introverted engineering student from a 4 person nuclear family with an engineer father, teacher mother, and engineering student brother find himself unable to envision a future that did not include an extroverted, people person, with lots of friends, six siblings, and more aunts, uncles, and cousins than I could count?

Find Farris Ben Eoin 2024

I have come to believe that our love is based on the complementary nature of our personalities. The A,B,C’s of my attraction and continuing love for Farris, from my analytic personality, are Affirmation, Belonging, and Care. Farris kind of Affirming Person does not always defend me as being right, but she respects and understands that I may have a different opinion, even if it is wrong! Belonging is unconditional regardless of the temperature or tension of the day or time. Care shows up where, for many reasons, it is needed. Certainly in times of physical and mental distress, Farris brings care. In times of distance resulting from inattention, dispute, aggravation, or distraction the path to restoration is care and Farris brings it.

Farris and David July 4 1975

Our Golden Anniversary is a special time for gratitude as we recall memories of our marriage and affirm the faith, hope and charity that supports our journey and pray these virtues will guide us to our Diamond Anniversary.